In the year of our Lord 2019, is the girl code still a thing? In the era of city girls, hot girls, thots, "fat ma's", hoochie mamas, and whatever else, are we being good women to ourselves and to each other?
There were times when you'd NEVER talk to or even look at a guy your friend liked, talked to, had sex with or none of that. Well, unless your good sis gave you the green light. Because let's be honest, some of these niggas is for everybody.
But what happened? How did we get here?
For one, a lack of communication happened. We got to this place where hiding who we were dealing with was just the thing to do. You know that "private relationship" thing. That was cool and all, but you ran the risk of "your" man being "our" man with that type of energy. And mess around and sleep with the same guy your homegirl sleeping with and not even know. Stranger things have happened, trust me, I heard the horror stories.
Secondly, we just have some sick women who just do anything for attention, revenge, just because, and whatever sick and twisted reason they come up with. That's the worst if the worst.
But, I am not writing this to slut-shame or judge the next. Because I haven't been the best woman to myself, or others. I'm simply trying to just get us all to see that there are some things that we need to work on: realize where we went wrong, know our own truths, take responsibility, and make a change. That's it, that's all.
I hope today's read prompted some of you to take an inwardly look at yourselves as well.
"Smile from your heart; nothing is more beautiful than a woman who is happy to be herself." -Kubra Sait
-Your Urban Black Girl